According to Canadian filmmaker Bruce LaBruce, asexuality is all the rage . . .
or not really. LaBruce says asexuality is a phase, is due to “menopausal hormone depletion,” or is a nice vacation from sex. He also points out the correlation between the asexuality movement and the conservative anti-sex bandwagon. An asexual conspiracy! This is one of those opinion pieces where I kept asking myself, “Is this ironic?” If so, he completely lost me by the time he got to the part about women getting fingered by gay patrons at a sex club in Johannesburg. Oh, to be so worldly.
Now, I’ll give LaBruce the benefit of the doubt, because I’m hoping he doesn’t actually believe asexuals want to reproduce asexually
. Instead of sex clubs in South Africa and sexual vacations, let's talk about what asexuality actually is.
Asexuality is not anti-sexuality. To speak candidly, most asexual people I’ve known have a “live and let live” attitude to other people’s sexual lives. Asexuality, like any kind of human sexuality, is a spectrum of physical, emotional and intimate desires, or the lack thereof, much like how some gay guys want to sleep with as many people as they can, or not many people at all, or only want one partner, or like to be romantically involved before they have sex with someone. It’s never a matter of someone being all or nothing, because an asexual person could want no kind of sex or no intimate physical contact, or maybe they’re someone who can have sex only with someone they’re romantically involved with, or maybe they’re someone with such a low-sex drive they feel comfortable sticking to a little jerk-off session every once in a while. An asexual person can be gay, straight, bi, trans, anything in between or outside of those categories. My point being, just as there’s no one way to be gay, there’s no one way to be asexual. This isn’t being politically correct -- it’s being logical. It’s not anti-sex; if anything it’s a revolution about ideas of what sex means.
Anyone interested in learning more can visit the Asexuality Visibility and Education Network