’s Gay Sex Survey for 2011 once again broke records by receiving 2,508 responses. Gay men wrote candidly about their desires, fetishes, emotions and needs. The overwhelming amount of raw data and comments required an entire team of fab
writers to sort, sift and select the most startling and titillating material. Fortunately, John Crouch, Ryan English, Michael Lyons, Drew Rowsome, Eduardo Sabate, Matt Thomas, Jonathan Valelly, photographer David Hawe and illustrator Jordi Santo were up, no pun intended, for the daunting task.
% of respondents have sex weekly, followed by biweekly at 25
%. A lucky 12
% get it daily and only 7
% claim not to be getting any. Most who commented wanted more, and a few did brag.
* When he brings home his paycheque. * Never with my partner — maybe once a month with someone else. * Try to have sex every day, and I do have days with sex twice a day. * Annually. * Twice a night on the nights we are together. * Sex about twice a week and jerking off every day. * Looking to hand in virgin card.
Is it hot in here?
More than half — 52
% — believe that sexual heat is the most important part of a relationship. 34
% prefer companionship and 14
% believe in romance. Many had other suggestions.
* Respect. * Cock and ass; nothing else matters. * Romance and sexual heat are fine, but you do have to be able to stand to be around each other. * Companionship sustains me, but I always need to relieve the pressure in my balls. * Companionship with my partner, but outside of my relationship it would be sexual heat. * If love comes along the heat can be turned down a little. * If this weren't a sex survey, I would rate companionship highest. * It's cool when you can have a conversation and not only like them physically but be turned on by their mind, too. * The more of a slut I feel like, the better. * Love the raw, dirty, animalistic feelings of hot sex.
Almost half of respondents are single, and those who are attached have varied definitions of what a relationship entails. Many of the attached respondents claim to be monogamous but admit they play on the side — this was particularly true of the surprisingly large number of married-to-women men. Wearing white and skipping down the aisle does not guarantee fidelity.
* It's monogamous, with the understanding that if something happens with someone else, it happens: as long as it's just sex. * Single, searching and kind of slutty. * Monogamous, but we also screw around together with other guys at the bathhouse. * We call it monogamy with a little leeway. * Married in a relationship she thinks is monogamous. * Single and looking for a connection. * I'm tired of kissing frogs and toads. * I'm trying hard to be monogamous.
Toys for boys
The Fleshlight was the most desired sex toy purchase according to 24
% of respondents. The dildo dominated when it came to the toy respondents most used coming in at with 39
% of the responses. Sounding rods were dubbed the sex toy most respondents would never use by 20
% of respondents.
* I'm on my third Colt Waterproof Silver Rod vibrator (available at Priape). I wore the first one out then dropped the second one and it broke. * I don’t own any of those because I live with my family and it’s not easy to hide those. * Seriously, is "would you never use?" a necessary option? I think every gay man encounters these at least once in their lifetime, even those prissy twinks who don't know any better. * Toys are for those with little imagination or drive.
Much much more to come, both in the printed magazine (on stands on Wed, April 27) and at fabmagazine.com...